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May 15, 2023Liked by Sue Ferrera

Sending so much love to you Sue. I too am trying to be the mother I wanted for myself.

My mom was raised poorly and not only in the ways of cash flow; love did not flow over her as she deserved.

I have spent years trying to understand why she did not love me, finally realizing she could not love herself and therefore was doing her best to love me with her short supply.

She is still here. I have found peace in accepting her as she is.

As you quoted... we are all simply walking each other home. ๐Ÿ’ž

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Acceptance is key. I'm happy you have found your peace, Patricia! ๐Ÿ’œ

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May 15, 2023Liked by Sue Ferrera

Thank you Sue. It was a hard fought battle inside myself to realize I am my own inner mother and the love I need resides within me. I read a magnificent book called Discovering the Inner Mother by Bethany Webster which impacted me greatly.

There were many layers to peel to make peace and I donโ€™t think I can write publicly about it while she is still here on the earthly plain. ๐Ÿ’ž

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I understand that Patricia. I don't believe I would have written my book, which is in large part about my mom, if she hadn't passed. You will write about her when the time is right. And in the meantime, obviously you are doing the internal work and helping others along their paths. Cheers to that! ๐Ÿ’œ

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Sue, I know from your book Tales of a Wayward Yogini, that you did come to a comfortable meeting point with your mom, I only wish that could happen with my mom. I suspect she has some mental issues in the form of dementia, but it has been about seven years since I have seen her in person and two years since I spoke to her on the phone, the conversation being about mundane things. My stepfather says she hasnโ€™t left the house in two years, as a side note, they live in a very remote canyon on 60 hilly acres, and 13 miles from town. I miss the mom I used to have; tough, artistic, cautious, and an excellent cook. Motherโ€™s Day always leaves me with a sadness in my heart. I want the โ€œoldโ€ mom back. I canโ€™t really blame her though, but it still hurts. However, since Alzheimer's runs in the family-my maternal grandmother had it, this is most likely what is happening to my mom. To all of you that had that amazing mom, or have reconciled with her, you are very lucky.

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I hope in time the sadness you currently feel on Mother's Day will be replaced with memories that lift you. In the meantime, I'm glad you have Dave, your children and friends, me included, walking you home. ๐Ÿ’œ

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Sue, you are right of course, and I am very blessed with wonderful children and an amazing husband, I also had an amazing mother in-law from my first marriage. She filled many of the roles of my mother as we both aged, she has since passed now, but I still miss her terribly. But what I like the most is "walking you home", this just hits me hard in the feels. Thank you for your friendship and love.

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Thank you as well, my friend. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

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May 15, 2023Liked by Sue Ferrera

I too had a complicated relationship with my mother. She could be loving one minute and raging the next. I learned at an early age to read her body language and mood. Itโ€™s not something a small child should have to do. We also reconciled later in life. As she laid dying I told her โ€œMom I forgive you and hope you can forgive me tooโ€. A small tear fell from her eye even though she had been unresponsive for a few days. I raised my own children very differently. I was smart enough to go into therapy when my children were very little. I was determined to break the family cycle of dysfunction. In Mass yesterday the Priest reminded us that those who need your prayers most are the wounded souls.

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Yes, my friend, you could be the poster child for breaking the family cycle of dysfunction. You have much to be proud of, and your children and your children's children have much to be grateful for. ๐Ÿ’œ

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May 15, 2023Liked by Sue Ferrera

Congratulations on doing the work to break that ancient wounding. I mean that with the utmost sincerity. So many of my clients are doing this work and the world is better for it. I too am walking this path to create a more loving way forward.

I admire and applaud you. ๐Ÿ’ž

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May 15, 2023Liked by Sue Ferrera

Lovely Sue - thank youโค๏ธ

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Sue ... thank you so much for being on this journey and sharing your heart. I'm honored to be included. joyce

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Thank you, Joyce, for you kind words. ๐Ÿ’œ

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