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Oh Sue, Truth be told, I am one of the fearful ones. So, I loved this statement "While illness and suffering are ever a possibility, I no longer turn my gaze in that direction. When and if they arrive, I will do my best to greet them with gratitude that it has taken this long." Do you mind if I adopt it?

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Janice, I'd be honored if you adopted it. Be my guest! 💚

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Janice, and Sue, that quote jumped out at me as well. I've had several of those appointments you speak of Sue, and my new mantra is to approach life with grace and grit. Thanks for sharing and to all of us as we Age Well.

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Thank you Paulette! I like your mantra, and will keep it in mind going forward! 💚

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None of us get out of here alive. And yet, our truest essence continues after our body, our vehicle, drops off or out. You have a deeply wise penetrating and capable essence. You understand much and communicate more. Yes, there is the pain in childhood, the fear of illness and medical, but the wisdom of you who connects word with song, emotions with thoughts, fears with honesty as you dance and breathe your hours of being human, is who is here sharing your soul for our benefit. Thank you.

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LIsa, your beautiful words bring tears to my eyes. Thank you, truly, for this. It means a lot to me. 💚

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Drink it in. Yes, you are! And..... you are not a wayward anything. You are a proper individual who thinks her own thoughts and feels her own feelings on her time table. You are accomplishing the goals you set for yourself, and you're happy. How many can say that? You know what makes you happy and what is worth the investment. That's not perverse. That's profound.

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I'd say wayward in this sense, the path is not always straight and narrow. More times than not, it is one step forward, two steps back, a mad dash, and then the occasional left turn down a dead-end road. But in the end, I believe we have the power to arrive at our desired destination. Thank you, Lisa. I am grateful for your comments and your support. 💚

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So much to think about here. Great post!

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Thank you, Rebecca! 💚💚💚

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I love Beautiful Chorus. I listen most Monday and Thursday mornings. Those seem to be my “breathing in, breathing out” days.

I too had a mom that always thought the sky was falling when I was young. Took a long time to shed the cape of fear, or get out from under the ever present dark cloud. Sending love.

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I just learned of Beautiful Chorus. Such beautiful music. Monday is usually a breathing in day for me as well. It seems many people had similar experiences with the fearful parent. I'll tell you, I worked hard not to be that fearful parent. And I only partly succeeded, but I made progress. Each generation can help heal the past. Sending love right back to you! Thank you for your support! 💚

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I get so unreasonably stressed about any doctors visit. It’s so strange. I get super freaked out just to have the yearly tests done, fearing what might come back in them even though they usually come back fine.

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That’s me! I can raise my blood pressure very high just getting my blood pressure taken! Lol

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Oh every time, until I really learned how to consciously lower it. Somewhere early on I learned to ask them to take my blood pressure again at the end of the appointment and it’s always come back down. I definitely have white coat fear. I kind of think it developed from all of those invasive vaginal exams that were so painful in my younger years.

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Yes, I think from now on I will do the same, just address the blood pressure at the beginning of the visit and tell them to take it later. And yes, vaginal exams were the worst. Thanks for your comments! Enjoy your weekend. Raining hard here today! 💚

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My mom was the opposite, at least outwardly. We had to have a high fever to get out of school or chores. I was rarely believed when I didn’t feel well. And overall, I was pretty healthy. Speculated a few times as to where this fear came from, but I’ve never been certain.

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I hear you. The age when a loved one passes has a huge effect when we turn that age or have a loved one entering that year. Oh the pain.

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Well, actually on that note, my mother lived to be 99, so there's that! lol Appreciate your thoughts!! 💚

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G-d bless!!

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Over the years I have see your growth in combating your fears. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I think many people can relate to the same fears and concerns around their bodies and illness, disease and doctors.

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Yes, my friend, you certainly have been with me, traveling through all the ups and downs. So grateful for you. 💚

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As I approach 72 this year, the same age when my mom passed, I keep reminding myself of the words my daughter said:

“Mom, YOU are NOT your mother!”

In some ways I am, she did give birth to me after all, however, I was a lot like my father also, probably more so. But I am simply a product of both when it comes right down to it. I am my own person. We come into this world with that personality and sets of choruses and dances we will do all our own as we trudge the road to happy destiny.

In the meantime, when a doctor or dentist visit is inevitable, bring your own pillow or favorite stuffed animal. ❤️

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Love this, Gail. Thank you!!! 💚

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Beautiful post, it brought tears to my eyes. ❤️🙌♥️

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Thank you, Laura. We're all in this boat together! 💕💕💕

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